The Feminist Movement. Part 4. The dying SAHM.

If you have missed the other blog posts about The Feminist Movement, make sure you check those out. They will enhance your experience with the feminist movement laid out here. 

Part 4 of the feminist, or should I say anti- feminist movement will cover arguing how most problems in our society (poverty, drugs, sex, teen pregnancy, abortions, selfish, spoiled, incompetent and entitled children, etc) can be traced back to the fact that most mothers do not stay at home anymore with their children. Because the feminist movement told women that being at home to raise children is not an important thing, and it shouldn’t be a priority.

I started to see this connection in the internship I did for my social work major. I did it at a counseling center that specializes in rehabilitating adolescent sex offenders. Shocker I know. I see that look every time I tell someone that’s what I did. I learned a lot about sex offenders in my months there. Lots of misconceptions. But the most interesting connection for me came after getting to know the offenders’ family histories and reading more about their lives and how their offenses took place. I have been able to trace all of the offenses back to pretty much one factor. No parent in the house to supervise. Now days the kids everywhere are SURROUNDED by sex. It's on TV, it’s in commercials, it’s in the movies, it’s in video games, and it’s on the internet. The first step in the sexual offenses that took place was these boys seeing some kind of porn. They find it on their own, or they are shown it by their friends. Where was mother to monitor and supervise her children's activities? She was not at home, but at work. The next thing that happens with these boys is they begin to experience the difficult task of dealing with the thoughts and desires and curiosity that pornography brings. I can't imagine how difficult this must be, a young teenage boy going through puberty trying to deal with thoughts and feelings from porn. These boys may start off mild, viewing mild porn, but it quickly grows into much more. They become very curious about what they see, and there is no one to sit with these boys and teach them how to handle these raging sexual emotions and curiosities, because the ones who should be are both at work. Porn leads to so many other sexual activities, and

pretty soon 6^th graders are having sex, at home, in their bedrooms because there is no mom to supervise. She’s at work. (That is a real story from my internship. Can you believe it! 6th grade!)

The boys that I worked with were not supervised at the time of their offense, not any of them. They went from finding some form of porn to being alone with younger brother or sisters, cousins, neighbors, and nieces, and used them as ways to get rid of the throbbing in their groins and to appease their curiosity. Unsupervised boys get into sex. Period. There is no arguing that. Boys need pretty tight supervision to keep their sexual urges under control. When these boys were not supervised, and when their victims were not supervised, the offenses eventually took place.

I mentioned above that the feminist movement is responsible for a majority of the poverty, drugs, sex, teen pregnancy, abortions, selfish, spoiled, incompetent and entitled children that we have in our society? Where is the method to my madness? Sex is a HUGE problem in our society, and I just explained how quickly young children exposed to sex will get into big trouble. But what about those other things I mentioned?

Well, first and foremost, the feminist movement took women out of the homes. And unsupervised teenagers get into consensual sex very quickly these days. Boys want sex. Girls, especially teenage girls want male approval, love and acceptance. They just want to feel beautiful and important to someone. They desperately need a strong male role model in their lives, but thanks to all the divorces and the women who get pregnant and never marry, that natural male role model for these girls---their fathers, are gone or involved very limitedly. So these very vulnerable girls looking for male approval find these horny teenage boys to give it to them. And since neither teen has a mom at home to supervise, they have a place to go do it. This causes way too much teenage pregnancy, which also causes abortion. This also causes poverty, because most pregnant girls want to raise their babies regardless of what it will rob the baby of. Many of them don't end up marrying the boys who knock them up and now a teenage or young adult girl is left to raise a child on her own. This also leads to a whole new generation of unsupervised children, because mom is at work making ends meet. She can't afford to be home with her kids, because she has to get a paycheck. And so the cycle continues. More children get into sex. More illegitimate kids are born out of wedlock and robbed of fathers and highly involved mothers. Drugs can happen for a number of reasons. The obvious is that when teens are not supervised many get into drugs, just like sex. Second is that most of these teens are suffering from not having a nice traditional home life with a married mom and dad. Their fathers at best see them with 50% joint custody, but usually it’s much less. Moms don't see them much during the day because they are working. This leaves a child to feel neglected and it causes them a lot of pain to not have 2 loving and involved parents, which a lot use drugs to mask. Lots of drug users come from homes without married parents.

(I realize there are exceptions to every statement I am making. There are some children from intact families who struggle with similar problems, and there are children who come from broken homes who come out on top and don't struggle with drugs or sex. The point I'm making is majority focused.)

Now, how did the feminist movement create selfish, spoiled, incompetent and entitled children? Well, simply stated, parents are not parenting anymore. They are at work, and feel guilty for not being home, so they over indulge. They spoil. They buy things for their kids that they do not need nor have they earned, out of guilt for not parenting. Secondly, good parenting is hard, and many parents don't do it anymore, probably because they are too tired from working and all the other responsibilities of taking care of the home. They are too tired to parent effectively, to face the fight and tell their kids no. They give in and their kids become even more spoiled and feel even more entitled. Thus we have selfish, spoiled, and entitled children. Now how do we get incompetent children? With no parent in the home to monitor and help with education, homework doesn’t get done. I work in the public education system as a substitute teacher, and believe me, kids these days are idiots. I don't blame them; I blame their parents who never help with homework. Who never are there to explain concepts in a way their child might better understand. Many of the kids in today’s schools (take it from a sub) need pretty close attention in order to grasp the beginnings of academics. What I believe is happening is that students get frustrated from not understanding, and give up. Another problem that these poor kids have is the way we diagnose them with ADHD because they are not paying attention. In most cases they are not paying attention because they don't understand and no one gives them the time of day to sit with them and help them figure it out. (Again, I'm making a blanket statement, and as a social worker I understand that ADHD is a real problem and many are treated correctly with medications. But I have also seen many “ADHD” children who quickly overcome this diagnosis with a little extra attention and TLC.) Incompetence starts at a very young age, and just spirals downhill from there. I frequently sub 8^th graders who can barely read. I get junior high kids who can’t comprehend sentences. I see middle school kids who don't know the meanings of very basic words. This is all stemming from, in my opinion, a lack of attention when they were just starting school. So their academics are shot to hell from the get-go. Public schools are failing our children, but mostly because the teachers are not able to pick up the slack that the parents are not picking up. I'm satisfied that if we could get moms back in the homes to be involved and dedicated mothers, so much of our society would be turned around for the better. There would be less poverty and teen pregnancy, there would be better academics and our society as a whole would be kinder and far less spoiled and entitled.(And I do plan to expound upon that in later postings.)